Giving up was awesome. I went back to myself. Sex didn't even cross my mind for days at a time and I loved it. I know myself when I feel like that, it's comfortable and welcoming. I thought about the blog, but I didn't feel right about posting the daily grind. That's not the point, and it would be easy to just do that and pretend that I never had a lofty, important goal when I started this thing (oh these many... err... weeks, ago.)
It turns out my wall may have been partially hormonal, but I suspect it was also a lot of change all at once. I was attempting to go from zero to sixty in not a lot of time.
However, even though my time over the last little bit hasn't been sex-focused at all, it was not wasted. I've made a doctor's appointment, and on Wednesday I'll be going in for the meet-and-greet. My plan is to lay my cards on the table right up front, no dithering and pretending nothing's wrong.
I'm going to say something along the lines of - "I haven't had a physical in almost three years, because the last time I did it hurt so much I cried. Every time I've had a physical since I was about 19, it's been incredibly painful. I also suffer from sexual dysfunction, which is at least partially related to the pain. I want to find out what's wrong, so I would like to get my hormone levels checked, my thyroid, all the standard blood work. I am phobic of needles, so if we can do everything in one session that would be awesome. My last doctor thought I was a hypochondriac and told me everything was in my head. She may be right, but I want to rule out physical causes as well."
I am not going to be brushed off this time. I allowed my previous doctor to make me feel really stupid, and I wasn't able to take myself seriously for a long time. This time, I'm going to wear my Wonder Woman shirt, my Wonder Woman belt buckle and my Wonder Woman purse. Inside my purse I am going to put my Buffy gum-tin, and surely some of the awesome will rub off on me.
I also made a call to find a counsellor in my area. I've been having anxiety attacks again, and I suspect they're related to the sex stuff. Since the anxiety spiked at the same time my ability to deal with sex plummeted, I don't think it's such a stretch to see a link. (Although I do think the cause and effect may be a bit murky.)
I also decided that the giving up was temporary. It was a breather, not a surrender. This is an important process, and although I am not totally defined by my sexuality, I want to be comfortable with it.
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